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2555 - Capture the Connection When You Agree with Someone in English

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0:00Hello, Michelle. How's it going today? I'm good,  Lindsay. Lindsay, do you love good sales? Of  
0:07course. Yes. Me, too. I I get so excited when  there's a good sale. And of course, now with  
0:14the holidays, there's been good sales. Did you  have you did you buy anything over the holidays?  
0:20Maybe Black Friday? Yeah, I did. I bought a few  things. Not so much Black Friday, but uh more,  
0:25you know, the weeks after that. I went Christmas  shopping in stores and and online and yeah,  
0:30who doesn't love a good sale, Michelle? Yeah,  exactly. So, today we are going to answer a really  
0:36great listener question. Um, so yeah, this is this  is going to be a good one. Very important. Um,  
0:44this is from this listener asked this on YouTube.  So guys, if you haven't checked out our YouTube  
0:49channel, definitely go on over, search All Ears  English on YouTube and you can see our episodes  
0:54over there and then hit subscribe. Um, Lindsay,  would you like to read the question? I would love  
1:00to. Here is our question. Hi Aubrey, Lindsay, and  Michelle. I'm Sam from Istanbul, Turkey. I want  
1:05to go to Turkey, by the way, so bad. Oh, that's  Thank you for accompanying me on my morning jog  
1:11every day. A this is so nice. Allers's English  listeners are not just listeners, they are also  
1:16observers. I have a question because there's a  real connection point here. In the episode, Are  
1:21You Slaying English? At 13:26, one of you says,  "I love Johnny Depp." And the other responds,  
1:27"Me too." Connection is essential here. So, could  you explain expressions like me too, neither do I,  
1:33either do I, etc. Because they all express shared  opinions, experiences, or feelings. Thank you in  
1:40advance. Yeah, I love that this listener is so  tuned in to connection like we are, Michelle. Yes,  
1:46definitely. And this this is huge. I mean, this is  a really good episode for connection. I think this  
1:54could be one of our top connection episodes. Yes.  I can't wait. Really? Yeah. So, I mean, because we  
2:01connect with people by sharing our opinions, our  interests, right? Trying to find things in common.  
2:07So, this is really about agreeing and finding  common ground. Oh my gosh. Totally. Totally.  
2:14Yeah. I mean, Lindsay, so what does me too mean?  It means I agree with you. Like, I see that thing  
2:20the same way that you do. Uh, it's the same  for me. I feel the same. I've experienced the  
2:26same thing you have, which the the listener  is totally right. It is a connection moment,  
2:31right? Such a big connection moment. So, we are  going to talk more about this in just a second,  
2:37but first we want to say thank you so much to  those who have reviewed us in our iOS app. Yes,  
2:42I noticed we've had some wonderful reviews in the  iOS app in the last few months. So, I want to say  
2:48a huge thank you to Kitty Japan. A huge thank  you to No Brightly, uh, as well as Afnan from  
2:56Saudi Arabia and Jerosia from not sure where that  student is from, but thank you for your amazing  
3:03reviews. These are great, Michelle. Fantastic.  Thank you very, very much. We really appreciate  
3:08it, guys. Um, so, all right, let's get into it.  So, let's do we're going to do a couple role  
3:16plays here so you can see how it's used. Um, all  right. Here we go. Here we go. I really love this  
3:22restaurant. Me, too. It's delicious. Nice. Okay.  Or this one. I know, Lindsay, you agree with me.  
3:29We've talked about pink. Yeah. Mhm. I think Pink  is underrated. Oh, me too. Right. And clearly, we  
3:36would continue the conversation here, right? there  would be some followup but this just immediately  
3:40gives you a way to agree and show the person you  see the world in the same way. Yes. Yes. Exactly.  
3:47So what so me too that's kind of one of the basic  ones but we can also use others. So another one  
3:55would be same here right? Yeah I love this idea of  expanding out moving beyond just me too. Me too is  
4:01good but that's your starting point. There  are other things we can say. So let's show  
4:04let's show our listeners this one. I love this  song. Oh, same here. Good. Yes. Yeah. So, just  
4:13another tool. Yeah. Um, so another one you can  say is so do I. Or if it's more than one person,  
4:19you could say so are we. So, for example, I want  to stop for coffee. Oh, so do I. I'm exhausted.  
4:26Nice. I love buying coffee, buying lattes on the  weekend. I'm so bad at that. I do it all the time.  
4:35Um, yeah, it's it's it's that ritual of the  coffee. You can't get past it. It's the best.  
4:40Yeah. Yeah. Yum. But yeah, so the listener also  asked about neither do I and either do I. So,  
4:47what's interesting is Lindsay, when you were  reading the question, are do are you an either and  
4:51an either person or an either and an either? This  is a pronunciation question, right? Good question.  
4:57Um, or I Oh my gosh. I think I'm more of an either  neither. Okay. Cuz when you read the question, you  
5:04were an either neither. I guess I'm I guess I'm  what do you say? Ambidextrous. I don't know. Yeah,  
5:08I guess you can do either. You could do Oh, but  I'm being nice. I'm an either neither. Okay. Um  
5:18I So guys, you will sorry because this may have  gotten confusing. So these words are spelled nei  
5:25t h e r. That's neither. And either is ei h  e r. Now, some people pronounce that with a  
5:35E sound and some people pronounce it with an I  sound. And neither one is right or wrong. It's  
5:40just what you're used to. So, you don't So, pick  your favorite and go with it. That's what Yeah.  
5:45Or mix it up. Keep it interesting. You know, you  could do whatever you want. I love when we have  
5:50options when it comes to pronunciation. But true.  This phrase, Michelle, feels a little strange to  
5:55me. Is either I mean, this idea of either do I.  Is that something we actually say grammatically in  
6:02English? No, we we're not going to say either do  I. That one doesn't work. But what about neither  
6:09do I? Neither do I. Neither do I. Totally cool.  Yes. Yes. So, we use neither do I when we agree  
6:18with someone who is saying something with a  negative. Okay. So, it doesn't mean they are  
6:25saying something negative necessarily. It's not  like, oh, if they say something bad, but that  
6:31they have a negative in the sentence. Okay. So,  let's do some mini role plays here. Um, I don't  
6:37think we need to leave early. Uh, neither do I.  The traffic is pretty calm at 11:00 a.m. Okay. So,  
6:43you said something. You've you've formed your  sentence in the negative and I agree with you,  
6:48right, Michelle? Yeah. So, you could have said  I mean, another way of saying the same thing was  
6:54would be if I said, I think we can leave a little  later. And then you could say, "Me, too. Me too.  
7:01Same here." Right? Same here. Right. In in that  area. Um, but since I had it in the negative,  
7:07you're gonna use a neither. Um, let's do another  example. Okay. I don't really like her new album.  
7:13Neither do I. I miss her old style. Mhm. And  again, I formed my statement in the negative.  
7:19And you agree. So, you're going to say neither do  I or neither do I. Right, Michelle? Yes. Exactly.  
7:25And it doesn't just because it's a neither. It's  it doesn't like it's we're actually agreeing here.  
7:32Right. Right. Yes. Don't get confused. We are on  the same page. This episode is all about how to be  
7:37on the same page. Right. Exactly. Exactly. Okay.  Um we're going to go over some more of these after  
7:43the break. All right. We are back from break.  So Michelle, there's still other things that  
7:48we could say. What about me neither? Me neither.  Where does this come in? Me neither is it's kind  
7:55of the opposite of me too. And it's also really  it's the same idea as neither do I. But you will  
8:00hear people say me neither. Uh it's less formal.  It's more conversational. Um I think you would not  
8:10really write me neither. Like I think neither  do right. I would say that um neither do I.  
8:16Neither am I. Right. Those are probably better for  writing. I mean, you might hear me. You'll hear  
8:22it. You might write it in a text message, right?  Because text messages are basically just talking.  
8:28Yeah. But the weird thing about this though is we  we said earlier that we have options with neither.  
8:33Neither, but I never hear someone say me neither.  Me neither. I don't hear that. True. Yeah. Because  
8:39Yeah. That would Yeah. Yeah. I would say for me  neither, I would not I would just go with the e  
8:46sound. Me neither. So there are some constraints  to those options that you have guys. Very kind of  
8:52colloquial thing, native and natural thing. It's  a little secret here, right? Yes. Exactly. So here  
8:58we go. Um here's how it would be used is I don't  usually make phone calls. Me neither. I prefer to  
9:04text. Is this you, Michelle? Are you someone that  would rather text someone or do you like to get  
9:09on the phone and call someone? It depends. like  it if sometimes like for work stuff, you know,  
9:18I I remember with Jessica, I used to just call her  if I was confused about something and or I mean or  
9:25yeah, if I'll text with Aubrey, I've called you,  you know, if there's something some sometimes I  
9:30just feel like it's just easier to answer. Yeah.  No, I agree. Faster. But if there's but like I'll  
9:36notice with my friends we'll be texting texting  texting and then if you're making plans all of  
9:42a sudden things are getting a little confusing.  I'll call or my friend will call and they'll say  
9:46and and you always hear them say something like oh  I just figure it' be it would be easier to talk on  
9:51the phone. Right. Right. Yeah. You have to say  something like when you've been in a long text  
9:54chain you decide to pick up the phone. You kind of  have to say something of why did you call? Right.  
9:59That would be a fun a fun other episode follow.  Yeah. I like that idea, guys. Hit the follow  
10:05button. Coming up in January, February, we'll have  some great episodes for you. Yes, exactly. So,  
10:11could So, I said, "I don't usually make phone  calls." Could you have also said neither do I? Uh,  
10:17I don't usually make phone calls. Neither do I.  I like that. We could say that. Yeah, that would  
10:21be fine as well. Yeah. So, then there's also uh  neither am I. Right. So, we can use it with am is,  
10:29right? So neither am I. Neither is he. Neither is  she. Neither are we. Right. So used with tob. So  
10:35you can do that as well. So here's an example.  I'm not going to the party. Neither am I. It's  
10:41too late. Yeah. Right. Love that. So So you have  to match it. You have it has to match, you know,  
10:47like that cuz I said I'm right. So you're not I  wouldn't say I'm not going to the party and then  
10:52you would say neither do I. Right? It doesn't  work. It has to match with the tob. Mhm. the  
10:57grammar form that you're using, the key verb here  needs to match. Good, good point. What else do we  
11:02need to know here, Michelle? Yeah. So, again,  just to clarify, when we say negative sentence,  
11:07again, we don't mean a negative opinion. We just  mean a sentence that uses a negative. Right? So,  
11:13I'm not doing this. I don't like this. Right? Um  that uses a negative. Um like so for example you  
11:21can say and we've talked about this you could say  I hate olives which is a negative thing but the  
11:27answer would be if you well for me I would never  say me too. I know but yeah but if you also are an  
11:34olive hater you could say me too right because  it's still a sentence that is in the positive.  
11:40Yeah. Oh Michelle I I really want you to like  try all the olives on the planet so you could  
11:45find an olive that you love. There has to be an  olive for you. I mean, an olive. An olive for  
11:50me. There's cola mata. There's so many different  kinds out there, right? I don't know. No. Okay.  
11:56All right. No takers. No takers. All right.  Let's go into a role play here of What are we  
12:01doing here? Okay. So, here we are. Acquaintances  at a mutual friends party. Okay. Here we go. Wow,  
12:08this party is amazing. I love the decorations. Me,  too. They really outdid themselves this year. I am  
12:14terrible with decorating. Oh, same here. I have  no talent for that. Oh, neither do I. I'm amazed  
12:21by people who do, though. Are you traveling  for the holidays? No, not this year. Neither  
12:26are we. We are staying put. We're saving up for  a summer vacation. Oh, so are we. Nice. Okay. So,  
12:33we're finding, you know, the connection piece here  is we're finding what we have in common. Yes. And  
12:38how we see the world the same way and maybe where  we differ in some cases, right? All right. Yep.  
12:43Yep. Exactly. So, I said, "This party is amazing.  I love the decorations." And you said, "Me,  
12:49too." Right. I agree with you. Right. And then  I'm making an additional comment. Normally, you  
12:55wouldn't just say, "Me, too." And then be quiet.  You would say something. Yeah. Right. Right. Yeah.  
12:59If you want to continue it on, right? Then you got  to keep keep talking. For sure. And then I said,  
13:04"I'm terrible with decorating. I'm making like a  I'm revealing something that I wouldn't be able to  
13:10do this well." And you're saying, "Oh, same here.  I have no talent for that. Right. And yeah, this  
13:17is this is good because um it I could you could  have said, "Oh, me too." Right? But we just said,  
13:24"Me, too." So, here we have some more options. Um  so, that's really good. And then, uh so I said,  
13:30"I have no talent for that." Which is true. And  then you said, "Oh, neither do I." Right? So,  
13:36again, we're we have a negative. So, now we're  moving into neither. Um, and we're using the  
13:42verb to do, right? And then you I said, "Are you  traveling for the holidays?" And you said, "No,  
13:47not this year." And then I agreed with you, right?  I said in our case, the case is the same for us,  
13:52right? Neither are we. Right. Yeah. You wouldn't  say me too, right? Yes. Right. You know, um,  
14:01so that wouldn't really work there because of the  negative. No. Um. Yeah. And then you said, "We are  
14:07saving up for a summer vacation." and I said, "So  are we." Nice. Nice. Yeah. So, it seems like we we  
14:13align on a lot of things which could make us think  like we want to become better friends, right?  
14:18Because we're acquaintances. Maybe we'll become I  mean we do it is true that we tend to make friends  
14:23with people that are sometimes similar to us. Um  not always and we want to have a big diversity  
14:29of friends in our circle, but the people that see  life in the same way, that's why we become friends  
14:35with them sometimes, right? And this will just  lead you to more and more things that you find  
14:39in common. You know, once the ball gets rolling,  you know, then it can be, "Oh, me too. Oh, wow.  
14:46That's the same for me." Right? Everything starts  moving. So, guys, huge, huge, huge for connection.  
14:51I don't think we can stress that enough. Um, even  though these are really kind of teeny tiny little  
14:56phrases, they're very important and can really  help you build that connection. Yeah, we can say  
15:01they punch above their weight, right? They punch  above their weight. also a good episode topic for  
15:06another day for that expression. Guys, go find uh  the next episode. A great one to go check out is  
15:12this was a Saturday episode. Learning English is  not like pulling teeth. So, go find out what the  
15:17expression it's like pulling teeth even means.  Has nothing to do with dental work. Okay. And  
15:25we'll see you guys over there. All right. Yes. All  right. Takeaway. I think we already mentioned it,  
15:30guys. Go for that connection point. try and find  ways to keep talking with people. And another  
15:36good point which Lindsay brought up a lot was, you  know, don't just say me too and then look look in  
15:40the other direction, right? This is your chance.  This is your chance. This is your real chance to  
15:45start building those connections. So, make sure  that you try and add as much as possible. Share  
15:50yourself, share information, um your opinions,  all sorts of things. And that's going to help  
15:55you really connect with people. Totally agree.  Take advantage of these moments when you see that  
15:59connection opportunity. There are other times  in life when we show up at a party and we feel  
16:03we have nothing in common with anyone. They  say things and we're like, "Oh, that's really  
16:08different from my perspective and we don't really  know what to say." Right? But these are moments  
16:12when there is a lot of material there. So, say  something right. Love it. Exactly. Excellent. All  
16:18right. Well, I'll see you soon, Lindsay. Have a  good day. Talk soon. Bye. All right. Bye. [Music]