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0:00Hello, Lindsay. How are you today? Hey, Aubrey
doing great. How are you? How's everything?
0:05Excellent. It's a beautiful day here in Arizona.
Do I have a question for you? Okay. When you
0:11listen to a podcast or maybe watch a film, do you
ever need time to let it sink in? I really do,
0:17but I think I don't take the time, you know,
because like as a podcast listener, there's just
0:22another episode to listen to, so I just go right
into it. But I wish I did take more time. Yeah,
0:28same. Every now and then I I do I'll be like I
need to go on a walk and process this. But it's
0:33rare. Usually it is. We're busy. Something else
comes up and we don't take that time. It's true.
0:38Well, today we're here for the final installment
of a three-part series. Right, Aubrey? Exactly.
0:43Stay to the end for details. You can definitely
listen to these out of order. But in part two,
0:49we discussed the phrasal verbs soak it in and
drink it in. And we mentioned that you might
0:54think let it sink in has a similar meaning, but
it's actually very different. So, we're covering
0:59that today and related meanings. All right, good.
We are going to close any gaps in our mind about
1:04these meanings. But first, guys, hit the follow
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Yes. Amazing. All right. Let's dive in with this
1:30first one. I had asked you if you sometimes need
time for something to sink in. So, when we say let
1:36it sink in, we mean to really absorb it, to fully
process it, to think about all of the implication
1:43or the deeper meaning. Often, if you read a poem,
if you don't take that time to let it sink in,
1:48you're missing metaphors, double meanings. because
there's usually a lot sort of hidden there. Mhm.
1:53For sure. So, here's an example. When Jenna told
us she was moving to another country, we all just
1:59sat there quietly trying to let it sink in. Yeah.
That's what happens sometimes when you get sort
2:05of somber news and no one really reacts right
away. You're letting the shock sink in because
2:10you're shocked. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. It's not
hitting you or after hearing the surprising news,
2:15he needed a few minutes alone to let it sink
in. And sometimes you'll see someone absent
2:20themselves. I just heard that on Love Actually.
It's sort of a British phrase to remove yourself
2:25from a situation. Yeah. Um because you need
time to process. Aubrey, I thought you weren't
2:29a fan of that movie. I thought you were I love
Actually, I do I don't love the the you know,
2:36I know we've talked about this, the plot line
where, you know, someone sort of being fat
2:40shamed and sort of commenting about her own
body. I really hate that. Um I think it would
2:45be different today. I'm so glad our culture has
evolved some in the way we talk about bodies. Um,
2:52but other than that, I really love that film.
Yeah, a lot of aspects I'll I'll I'll give you
2:56that are definitely dated and wouldn't fly today.
So many and not just that piece, but other pieces,
3:01too. But I watch it every year. I still watch it.
I do too. It's not It's not the holidays until I
3:06watch on team love actually. I thought our team
was dividing across lines of not Love Actually,
3:11not watching Love Actually, and Michelle's also a
fan. Yeah. Okay. I kind of wish they would remake
3:16it and and re-edit a little something something,
but no, every year. Every year. I think I'll get
3:21it on the plane on my way back to Boston for By
the way, guys, we're recording this a few about
3:25a week before Christmas. So, that's the context
there. So, I just watched it like two days ago.
3:30Okay. Perfect. Perfect. All right. All right.
Good. So then wrap your head around it would
3:34be our next one, right? So very similar, right?
Mhm. And so this can be emotional things. Same
3:41where you need time to let something sink in.
It can also just be more about something that's
3:45difficult to understand or comprehend, right? Um,
so maybe when Mark explained that he was switching
3:52careers at 40, it took his friends a while to
wrap their heads around it. So that kind of thing
3:57where like you're confused, you don't understand
why he's making this choice. Yep. Yep. For sure.
4:02And or I still can't wrap my head around how
quickly their relationship changed. And again,
4:06it comes back to shock, right? You're kind of
shocked. You're confused. you're just not taking
4:11it in because it doesn't make any sense with what
you expected to hear, right? But we do use this
4:17more synonymously with let it sink in as well.
I could say like I just saw this documentary and
4:24I need time to wrap my head around everything
I learned. And then it would have a very same
4:28meaning as like I need to just absorb it. Yes. I
love it. And there's a third one today, Aubrey.
4:33What is it? Make sense of it. So kind of the same
like understand it. something's either confusing
4:40or hard to understand. For example, after watching
the news on TV, I tried to make sense of what I
4:46had heard. Okay, so this could be anything. It
could be extreme violence that you just can't
4:51fathom how that happens in the world and you
need sort of time to try and make sense of it.
4:56Yeah. And this could be used in a heart sense like
you've seen this violence and you just can't take
5:00it in emotionally, but it also could mean like
cerebrally. Is that a word? you know, cognitively
5:07you can't quite take it in because you can't make
sense of it because you don't quite understand all
5:12the details, right? It could be both. Exactly.
Yeah. The second example is more like that,
5:17right? She kept reading the text message again
and again trying to make sense of his comment. So,
5:22this is more cerebrally like I just don't
understand what he means. Yeah. Exactly. Love
5:27it. All right, Aubrey, we are going for a role
play now. My favorite part of our episodes. So,
5:33here we are sitting in a coffee shop. Sounds fun.
processing a friend's announcement, though. Oh,
5:37I wonder what the announcement is. Okay. Yeah.
Okay. Good. Here we go. All right. I can't believe
5:43Emma is getting married. I need a minute to let it
sink in. Same here. I mean, last time we talked,
5:50she wasn't even sure where the relationship was
going. I'm having a tough time wrapping my head
5:54around it exactly. And she didn't give us any
details. I'm replaying what she said, trying
5:59to make sense of it, but I still feel confused.
Honestly, I think she surprised herself, too. She
6:05looked nervous but excited. True. Well, as long
as she's happy. Yeah. Yeah. This can happen. Or
6:11sometimes maybe you have a friend who just like
you were sure you'd be like uh married and have a
6:16kid before that person, but then they they do all
that before you and you're shocked, right? You're
6:20just totally that kind of thing. Didn't see that
coming. Or it just might happen out of the blue,
6:26right? Really unexpectedly. People's lives change
really quickly, you know? Totally. You never know.
6:31Yeah. All right. So, first thing we said here was,
"I can't believe Emma is getting married. I need a
6:36minute to let it sink in." Yeah. Yeah. There's
some shock, some surprise. So, you're like,
6:42"It's it's taking me a moment to process. I'm just
really surprised." Yes. What else? And I said,
6:48"I'm having a tough time wrapping my head around
it." So, yeah, this is interesting. Two friends,
6:53and I kind of love this conversation. This
happens a lot where we're trying really hard
6:58to not talk trash about our friend. We don't want
to gossip. We don't want to say anything negative,
7:02but we're both very shocked. We're both like may
and there's maybe this underlying tone of is she
7:08making the right choice? What's happening
for us to use these phrases like I need to
7:14I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around
it? I'm very surprised and I maybe disagree,
7:18but I'm trying to be a good friend. This is a
really I don't know if this is a cultural thing,
7:22but this is a tough thing because when someone
has decided to get married to someone and if
7:27you don't like the person or you disapprove,
there's a really fine line you have to walk and
7:31basically you kind of can't say like socially,
I mean culturally, socially, you kind of can't
7:37say that exactly. Um, it's so tricky. You feel
like you sort of have to just be supportive. But
7:44there is like if you feel like they're really for
some reason it really is a bad choice. You almost
7:49feel obligated out of loyalty to your friend to
say something but it could ruin the friendship,
7:53right? Like if you know something about
that person that the person doesn't know,
7:56then maybe that's an extenduating circumstance
where like culturally you could you could say
8:00something. I know if you just don't like them have
to keep it to yourself. It's true. I know someone
8:05that was in this situation that he wanted to tell
his best friend that uh he doesn't think it's a
8:10good choice who his best friend is marrying, but
he just couldn't do it, you know. Um so tricky.
8:16It's the same as when someone if there's like a
breakup and you want to maybe really tell them
8:21what you thought of that person, but there's a
chance they'll get back together. So, you feel
8:24like you can't really be that honest and open.
It's so tricky. It's so true. Did we go through
8:29the last one? I'm not sure if we did. I'll I'll
do it again. No, I think that makes sense of it.
8:33Yeah. you said, "I'm replaying what she said,
trying to make sense of it, but I still feel
8:38confused." Right. So, these are just like polite
ways that we're saying, "And we're in public." So,
8:44maybe if we were like in private, we'd be like,
"What is happening?" Yeah, for sure. But instead,
8:50we're using these very polite phrases. Use a
little polite, a little bit more polite. It might
8:53be like emotionally you're trying to make sense of
and cognitively you're trying to make sense of it,
8:57right? Because sometimes it's both. It's both.
Definitely. Yeah. Okay. What are the other uh part
9:03one and part two that our listeners should go to?
Yes, if you missed these, you can check them out
9:08right now. Episode 2542 was take in phrasal verbs
to connect in English. And then the follow-up part
9:16two was 2548, absorb these English phrasal
verbs. So that covered more like take it in,
9:23take it all in, and then soak it in, drink it
in. And then this is your part three. Love it.
9:27And where should we leave our listeners today for
a takeaway? What is our final thought on this one?
9:32I kind of love what came up here in the roleplay.
It's really interesting when you use phrases like
9:39these to be more careful of a friend's emotions
of big things in a friend's life. You can't always
9:46say like, "What are you thinking? I disagree.
I'm confused." Instead, we would use today's
9:52phrases. Yeah. And I do I'm going to echo this
again. I really do wonder if this goes across
9:56cultures like or are we especially sensitive to
once someone has announced that they're getting
10:01married for example, you don't really talk
trash about the person they're marrying. You
10:06really don't unless it's like something really
dire. Um, exactly. And yeah, I'm just curious,
10:12maybe we'll have this be a poll question for
our listeners for today. Um, I would love to
10:17know. It just tells you connection is about so
much more than learning the words operate. It's
10:21about understanding the cultural context of what
we do and what we don't do and what what's fair
10:26game and what's a faux paw, right? And in some
ways, it might really be better to be more blunt
10:33and honest and share your true feelings because
then if someone goes through a horrible breakup
10:38or something goes terribly wrong, you might feel
guilty like you should have said something. So
10:44tricky. It's such a tricky thing because you also
risk losing the friendship. Right. Right. If you
10:49do approach that topic and you say, "I think
you're marrying the wrong person," or, you know,
10:53you could lose the friend forever. I mean, this
is heavy stuff here. So, we're using diplomatic
10:57phrases to navigate around this a little bit to
respond. Exactly. Right. Very interesting today. I
11:03love that cultural piece as well, and I'm excited
for you guys to use these expressions. Yeah,
11:09super interesting. Good topic today, guys. Hit
follow if you love our style, which is connection,
11:13not perfection. All right, Aubrey, we'll see you
soon. Take care. Awesome. See you next time. Bye.
