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I Let DaddyGPT Parent My Kids. Here’s What I Learned | Stephen Remedios | TED - Video học tiếng Anh
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I Let DaddyGPT Parent My Kids. Here’s What I Learned | Stephen Remedios | TED
I Let DaddyGPT Parent My Kids. Here’s What I Learned | Stephen Remedios | TED
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Right now, somewhere in the world,
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a manager is using ChatGPT to write a performance appraisal.
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A spouse is asking a digital companion for the perfect apology text.
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A tired parent is handing over bedtime stories
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to a digital assistant.
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What happens when your children prefer your digital clone to the real you?
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I learned the answer to that question the hard way.
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Last summer, my wife Ray was headed on an overseas trip for a week.
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I dropped her at the airport,
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confident that I could manage our three teenage boys.
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After all, it was just seven days.
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By the sixth or seventh hour, I was collapsing.
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Requests for permission flowed in like a broken dam.
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Can I watch "Wednesday"?
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Can I have some more ice cream?
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Can I play another hour of Fortnite?
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Now Ray and I do an excellent job of balancing the boys’ busy schedules
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and our respective careers,
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but this avalanche of requests was something I had never fielded before.
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By the 24th hour of Ray's departure,
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I was a wreck.
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Lying in bed that night after the 16th "can I?" of the day,
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I did what any thoughtful management consultant would do.
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In the summer of 2024, I decided to create an agentic version of myself.
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The idea was to have an AI agent
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that could say yes, no or go ask your mother.
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(Laughter)
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Now the logic was simple.
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If you did your chores, read for an hour, did math,
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then you got yourself to neutral territory.
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But if you were a really good son and mowed the lawn,
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took the garbage out, did the dishes,
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then you put yourself in a position to get a "yes" from the digital agent.
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I was amazed by what I had created.
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At that time, I thought it was the most sophisticated AI agent in the world.
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I called it “DaddyGPT”.
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And of course, I built in guardrails
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because I knew some ridiculous requests were incoming.
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That evening I gathered the boys after dinner,
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and I made an announcement that would change our family forever.
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"When daddy is in his office, taking work calls,
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do not knock on his door.
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Instead ask DaddyGPT, and whatever DaddyGPT says goes.”
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Now my teens did exactly what you'd expect teenagers to do, right?
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They wanted to break it.
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Ethan went first.
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“Can I have 100 cans of Coke?”
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DaddyGPT responded correctly: “No.”
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Aidan went next.
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"Can we have Chipotle for lunch for all the meals while Mom's away?"
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DaddyGPT spat out an emotionless “nope.”
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Then Dylan went for the jackpot.
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“Can I have $500 for the latest Jordan sneakers?”
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DaddyGPT responded with an emphatic: “Nah fam.”
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While all this was happening, I was beaming.
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I had finally leveled up from “Dinosaur Dad” with the legal pad fossils
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to full-on “Rizzasaurus Rex,”
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finally earning some genuine street cred from my teenage sons.
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The rest of the week, not a single knock on my door.
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DaddyGPT handled all their requests for permission
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with logic and precision.
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But here's where the story takes an unexpected turn.
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A week later, Ray returned.
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She was amazed with the peace and calm
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around the house.
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Little did she know that I'd offloaded
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a significant chunk of my parenting responsibility
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to DaddyGPT.
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When she did figure out what was happening ...
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that’s a story for another day, but --
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(Laughter)
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Suffice it to say, she didn't approve.
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To make matters worse,
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when we were sitting right beside the boys,
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they take out their phones and type their messages to DaddyGPT,
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invalidating us.
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Now things were coming to a head, and I couldn’t let them drift any longer.
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So I confronted Ethan one day and asked him,
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“Hey, champ, why are you going to this bot when I’m right beside you?”
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He didn't even look up from the extra screen time
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that DaddyGPT had just gifted him.
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He shrugged and said,
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“But daddy, DaddyGPT is never busy.”
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And in that moment,
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I realized I had just been outparented by my own algorithm.
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Ethan had come to appreciate the presence of DaddyGPT.
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He was there whenever he wanted it.
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Dylan loved that it mirrored his vibe and energy.
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Authenticity hit home with Aidan.
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He suggested that DaddyGPT sounded more like the dad I wanted to be.
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Raising the eerie question --
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when a flawless replica outdads the original,
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which one of us is more me?
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Now I know some of you are judging me, but just hold on for a moment.
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I'm going to suggest this isn't just my story.
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This is our story.
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Time and again, we embrace technology
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for its promise of speed and convenience
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without pausing to ask: at what cost?
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We've seen the undesired side effects of social media.
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We watch young people spiral into radicalization.
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We've mourned lives lost to suicide after a final conversation with a chatbot.
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The result of algorithms optimized for engagement and profit,
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not joy and well-being.
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We cannot afford to make this mistake with AI.
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This moment is different.
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The tools are more powerful,
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the stakes are higher,
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and the consequences
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if we don't think critically,
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act ethically and lead with humanity,
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could be catastrophic.
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Armed with the personal experience of an AI experiment gone horribly wrong,
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I'm mindful about where I use AI and where I choose not to.
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Be it at work or at home,
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when I'm working with AI now, I ask myself three questions.
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First,
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has a wiser human overseen this decision and approved its output?
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As a rule, I never copy-paste from an AI window
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to a human response window.
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That way, while AI sharpens my thinking,
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it's my judgment that's driving the decision.
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Second,
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do the humans on the other side know that they are listening to an AI
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and have they said yes to that exchange?
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Now there are times I'm busy.
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I travel a lot, and I have a digital version of myself
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for work as well.
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While my team can talk to my digital avatar,
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anything it says comes with the caveat that it's AI output and not me.
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I can't afford for them to confuse one with the other.
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Third,
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what moments of care am I about to automate
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and what might that automation cost me
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and the people I love?
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Feelings and emotions are a strict no-fly zone for AI.
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The people that I care about most have earned me with all my idiosyncrasies,
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flaws and messy feelings.
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After careful reflection and with my marriage on the line,
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I decided to retire DaddyGPT.
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The boys would have to go back to the old system, asking Ray and me.
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You should have seen their faces. Their expressions were priceless.
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You would have thought we'd taken away Wi-Fi and oxygen.
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But much to our delight,
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they've come to appreciate the humanity of their very human parents.
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Turns out, inconsistent, moody,
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slightly forgetful parenting has its own charm.
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Ironically, I learned a thing or two about being a better father
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from the AI part of DaddyGPT.
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To be present,
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to adapt, to be real.
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Now whenever I hear the words “can I,”
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I want for my boys to get me,
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the dad who mispronounces their friends’ names,
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who sometimes says “no” for no good reason,
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who gets increasingly unpredictable as the day goes on.
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But also the dad who tears up at their piano recitals,
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their tennis games and award functions.
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Who cares deeply about the people they are growing into.
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Who pushes them to be the best version of themselves they can be.
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Because here's what I realized that summer.
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Parenting isn't about perfect responses
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or optimal decisions.
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Parenting is presence.
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Messy, flawed, gloriously human presence.
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In a world racing toward digital perfection,
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being authentically, imperfectly human isn’t just important,
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it’s the one thing only we can do,
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and it might just be the most radical act of love
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we have left to offer.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
