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Idiots Are Everywhere. Here’s How to Cope | Joshua Johnson | TED
Idiots Are Everywhere. Here’s How to Cope | Joshua Johnson | TED
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Idiots --
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(Laughter)
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Are everywhere.
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(Laughter)
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Some people drive you right up the wall with their opinions, their attitudes,
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their politics.
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I dealt with all kinds of people in my 20-plus years
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as a broadcast journalist.
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Eventually, I found moderating tough conversations
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with whatever kind of difficult people you just thought of.
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Kind of simple to do --
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not easy -- but simple.
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The trick is to go somewhere I know you'd rather not be.
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Closer.
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Distance makes things worse.
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I came up in public radio,
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trained by old-school journalists who taught me the art of neutrality.
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You neutralize your opinions, deaden your emotions,
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and you can get through most conversations without rolling your eyes.
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Generally, it worked, and it built me a strong reputation for fairness.
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But when the subject matter felt personal, neutrality felt phony.
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I used to host a national talk show on NPR called "1A,"
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and in one of our early programs,
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I interviewed a descendant of Confederate soldiers.
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He argued that Confederate monuments should be historically preserved.
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Now as a Black man, I felt enormous pressure to remain neutral,
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so I decided I was just going to focus on his arguments instead of on him.
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His logic felt kind of flimsy, and I called him on it,
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and eventually he just folded and he said,
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“It really doesn’t matter what I say.”
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And the moment he said that, I knew I had failed.
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I may have had a point,
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but I missed a huge opportunity to really do my job.
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See, my neutrality allowed me to interrogate his beliefs,
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but the distance prevented me from seeing why he believed them.
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What if I had asked better questions like:
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"Who influenced you the most in forming these views?"
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Or, "Suppose we let all of these monuments and statues stand just as they are.
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What would that mean to you?"
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Getting his story might have shown me him
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behind his canned arguments.
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Grilling him changed nothing.
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It felt pointless.
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When you consider someone problematic,
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there's a better way to deal with them,
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keep your sanity and maybe even connect.
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And it sounds insane.
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Move closer.
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Not to embrace them, but to explore them,
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like a doctor studying a sample.
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You need a microscope, not a telescope.
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Doctors actually helped me learn this way before I became a journalist.
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As a teenager, I was part of a summer program for future doctors.
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Clearly it worked.
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And I found myself working with clinicians studying cancer
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and thrombosis and HIV,
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very serious conditions.
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I kind of naively expected them to be these crusading scientists,
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but they were just level-headed people doing their jobs.
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But there was a lesson in that level-headedness.
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See, I am not neutral about the cancers in our world:
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bigotry, hoaxes, political violence.
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I want them gone.
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However, as a journalist,
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I often had to deal with them in my clinic:
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“on-the-air.”
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I survived it by getting as close to those problems as I could
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and studying them like samples in a petri dish.
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In other words,
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I had to shift from neutrality
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to objectivity.
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And no, they're not the same.
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Objectivity is just when you park your emotions and learn without judgment.
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I don't have to like it,
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I'm just here to learn from it.
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Neutrality negates your opinions as if you have no judgments.
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Does anyone here honestly believe I have no opinions on race?
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(Laughter)
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Right?
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Now notice I said park your opinions.
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When you park your car,
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you don't abandon it in the garage.
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You're coming back for it.
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So you can choose when to focus inward on what you think,
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or outward on what you can learn.
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Of course, sometimes your car ain't where you left it,
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and maybe your opinions will move too.
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That maybe is why objectivity feels so vulnerable.
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That's why it works.
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That vulnerability is a sign of openness,
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and a conversation that's not open is pointless.
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But if you can stay open, amazing things can happen.
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Another time on NPR, I was interviewing a former Baltimore police officer
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who had become this fiery advocate for law enforcement reform.
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And he was going on and on,
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just a long rant in autopilot,
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just (vocalizing).
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And I was trying to stay objective and listening as best I could,
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when I thought I heard his voice waver just a little.
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And in that waver,
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I detected more than his rage.
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It sounded like trauma.
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So near the end of the interview,
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I mentioned, hesitantly,
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that he seemed traumatized by his experiences as a cop,
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and could he reflect on that.
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He said,
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"I put people in prison cells who are better people than me."
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Whoa!
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Sure enough, he went right back to his talking points,
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but it didn’t matter, because in that moment --
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that sliver of his story --
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his defenses dropped, and he shifted from being right to being real.
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Look, some people are just difficult,
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but we can deal with them more simply.
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Here are three tips to get you started.
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First, get the story,
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particularly the key decisions and the turning points.
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What someone believes is not as important as how they chose to believe it.
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Second, my NPR host pro tip:
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keep your questions short.
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10 seconds tops.
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Long questions can feel like a setup or like you're rambling.
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And third, use that mental microscope.
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Look as closely as you can.
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Remember, you don't have to like it, but learn from it.
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It is time to reconnect,
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even to the people you can't stand.
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But this time, we're going to make those connections count.
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You could learn a lot from an idiot.
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(Laughter)
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Especially if you resolve never to act like one.
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I really appreciate you all making time for me today.
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Thank you for listening.
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(Cheers and applause)
